Needy needs needy. Some of us are so needy that we have convinced ourselves that we just can’t do it on our own. We need someone to assist us in everything we do, so we believe. Others of us need to be needed. Instead of kicking that grown bird out of the nest, we still try to regurgitate food for them to swallow. We need them to always need us because it makes us feel valued. Enablers and underachieving dependents are different but very similar. One may be overbearing and the other plain lazy but they are both needy just the same.