They can see it in your love, or sometimes your lack of love. You’re together but how do you treat one another? Are you loving and giving? Do people look at your relationship and say “I want a love like that in my life” or do they say “I would never let my man or woman treat me that way.”? The way you behave towards your mate is very telling to observers. If you disrespect the one you profess to love, the observer will feel free to do so also. When you speak to them as if they have no value to you, it lessens their value in the minds of others. It reflects poorly on your lover but even more so, on you. If you love someone, show them in your words and actions always. You should love your lover strong and well or you should at least love them enough to leave them alone.